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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2008 13:35:08 GMT -5
You know, I was just sitting here thinking about our American youth culture and how so many people think growing older is something to fear. Well, I've got news for you guys, growing older rocks!!!
Here are ten myths that youg gays have about older gay men.
1- All older gays are chicken hawks. This is really not true at all. Most of us like people our own age. In fact, The only thing a chicken can do for me is show me wnere the rooster is!!!
2- Young gays only want older gays as daddies. Not true at all. Most young gays like their own age group. If they want a daddy, they are only on the hustle.
3- Older gays can't be popular. Not true. Most of us don't want to be popular with twenty year olds as we don't have anything in common with them except as mentors. I prefer being popular with my own peers.
4- Older gays are rich, fat and ugly. Not true. If you believe that, you also believe that all Jews are cheap, all Puerto Ricans carry knives, all blacks have big dicks, all Chinese people know karate, and all Italians are in the mafia The rich, fat and ugly gay is nothing more than a myth.
5- Older gays don't want to be viewed as elders. Not true. I am a senior citizen and not a circut boy. I am proud of what i've done with my life and my friends respect me for it.
6- All physical contact leads to sex. Well, perhaps sometimes. Often, my hubby and I just want to cuddle. But if I rise to the occasion, and I always do....well. I'm sure you understand.
7- When we get older, we will be alone. Not true. If you have learned the skills needed to put together a long term, committed relationship, you will have one. On the other hand, many of us older guys don't want a relationship andThat's ok.
8- The older you get, the younger your type. Oh PLEEEEZZZEE!!!!
9- When we get too old for bars, we stay home. Oh we do stay home alright. To have cocktail parties with our friends, to travel around the world, to take advanced education classes, to enjoy long sexual sessions with our partners because We don't suffer from premature ejaculatioin. All days ok and all night's alright!!!
10- Long term relationships are for heterosexuals. Most of us older guys know folks who are in relationships for 20 to 50 years together.
I recommend growing older for everybody. Trust me, the party has only just begun!!!
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Post by TheBear on Nov 21, 2008 14:36:43 GMT -5
You know, I was just sitting here thinking about our American youth culture and how so many people think growing older is something to fear. Well, I've got news for you guys, growing older rocks!!! Here are ten myths that youg gays have about older gay men... I recommend growing older for everybody. Trust me, the party has only just begun!!!... OH WOW... THREE CHEERS FOR OUR OWN CARROLL!!! I would like to add / reinforce some of the points that Carroll made about ageing with a few self-reflective thoughts... I ENJOY the company and social exchange with young adults... especially MATURE young adults... and particularly mature young adults in their 50s, 60s, etc. At 65, I consider myself a "JUNIOR senior" as the FUN part of my life and the best of times is NOW! When I was in my 20s, I preferred older guys... not for the "daddy factor" but because there was more than just hormones and air in their skull. It's still true for me now. Happily, I often find MATURE adults in their 20s-30s-40s... I avoid picking the green / immature fruit. As my recent trip to New Orleans with the newly-forming Southern PAD group demonstrated to me... I felt VERY well treated, honored, respected, included and looked up to by all the attendees many of whom were one-third to one-half my age! It's NICE to be the "Emeritus" member of the group!  Re: LTRs... over the last eighteen months, both halves of a loving relationship and dear friends of mine died. On their last anniversary together, they had been life partners for FIFTY EIGHT YEARS. My first partner and I were together for 20 years before he died (although, I admit there were times I would have happily killed him with my own hands, LOL!!! But I digress...) My second partner, an oncologist, chose to facilitate the closing of his life to relieve suffering at a terminal 60-day prognosis from cancer. ... The point is, Long Term Relationships can and DO happen in our community and often with seniors. Regarding the "FUN FACTOR" of being a senior - or more accurately the fulfilling and fun part, I respectfully submit this... Since I was assaulted on the job, injured, disabled and disability retired at age 62, I have returned to school, earned a second BS degree, two MS degrees, an FT, a CT, multiple other certifications, have traveled Europe, been on many cruises, met more GREAT GLBT friends and have experienced more sustained JOY than in any other time of my life! The Bottom Line is this: Even being disabled, I find that through PMA (Positive Mental Attitude,) realistic life goals, hard work and appreciation for the taste of life, the Best of Times is NOW!Bear _________________ |
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Post by bluepride on Nov 21, 2008 19:44:01 GMT -5
I heard my Mom say that 80 was the new 60, a few years ago. I almost fell off my chair when she said it. Thought it was great! |
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Post by bluepride on Nov 22, 2008 20:05:34 GMT -5
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Post by TheBear on Jan 13, 2013 18:42:19 GMT -5
Just wanted to share with BluePriders that I think I am on the mend. After two months of three trips to my GP, four trips to the cardiologist, four difficult episodes of "tests" at the hospital in Oregon (a 85-mile very difficult road/drive to get there) and a couple hospital stays, I think they have got me stabilized with new heart meds. SOB (shortness of breath) and severe atrial fibrillation have been challenging. Thank goodness the property caretaker found me passed out on the ground next to my car a few weeks ago. With new meds, my heart is now actually pumping blood rather than just fluttering. Looks like BluePriders are gonna have to put up with my "charm" about worms and colonoscopy and such for a long time!  Okay... fresh cookies in the breakroom! Bear __________________. |
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Post by blu06 on Jan 13, 2013 18:48:06 GMT -5
Can I still wear my gold lame boy short shorts, even if I'm passed 50yrs?   ;D  |
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Post by TheBear on Jan 13, 2013 20:33:32 GMT -5
Can I still wear my gold lame boy short shorts, even if I'm passed 50yrs? ;D Blu, you are my inspiration! I've always loved seeing you in those shorts... or out of them |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2013 10:30:45 GMT -5
Bear, I'm so glad that you're feeling better and that things are looking up for you. It must be freezing cold in Fort Dick today !! Stay warm and come back to Florida as soon as you can.
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Post by TheBear on Jan 15, 2013 10:59:47 GMT -5
Bear, I'm so glad that you're feeling better and that things are looking up for you. It must be freezing cold in Fort Dick today !! Stay warm and come back to Florida as soon as you can. Thank you, Carroll! Yes, each day I take the two new heart meds, I am feeling better/stronger. NO episodes of severe atrial fibrillation since I started meds last Friday (believe me, it's scary.) Heart valve replacement surgery has now been put off "to be re-evaluated" in six months. If I'm doing okay, then another six. And I don't have to drive that horrible road to Grants Pass, Oregon 1-2X per week. I fly to Tucson tomorrow for a week to attend the Fiesta de los Osos. Bears bears bears! Maybe the heart meds will get "the ultimate test"  Next road trip starts after I submit my dissertation the end of June. I should be seeing you in August, Carroll! Since I will be out of school, I'll wander, driving around the country until staying with friends for a few days early November. Then, it's off to Cancun. I've signed up for Beachcomber Bears for a week of bears bears bears at a resort. Then, I'll return to Oklahoma where I've been invited to share Thanksgiving with some folks who knew my family. Since I have no family or relatives left, it will be special! THEN, I think I'll fly to Honolulu to meet up with my friend Terry from Sydney for a week. YUP... these new heart meds are amazing! Okay... for now, cookies and milk and frittatas and sausage and waffles and fresh fruit are being served in the BluePride break room. Then, I want BluePriders to join me ice skating after tobogganing down from the ski lift. DAMN these new meds have me fired up! Bear __________________ |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2013 9:30:17 GMT -5
Oh Bear, that's great. I didn't know there were so many bear events around the country. From Arizona to Cancun. Everybody loves Polar Bears, They're are going to keep you hopping. Thank God you have a new car. It's going to get a full workout driving around the country. Can't wait to see you when you get to Florida.
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Post by bluepride on Jan 16, 2013 15:02:01 GMT -5
Bear, I didn't know about any of this! But I'm glad you had everything taken care of and are back in the saddle, as it were. I know and I hope that you are taking care of yourself. It seems like you are based on your upcoming trips! It takes a lot to get you down! Seems like it's pretty hard to keep up with you, you rascal! What scared me most was that you were found passed out. That is not good. You seriously have to start thinking about getting down to sunny Florida where you have friends, support and resources and most of all, not be so isolated in Fort Dick. (heh heh, I said "Fort Dick"!) In any event, I hope you keep in touch with us during your trips and at least check in with Carroll by phone on a regular basis while on the road. (I'm coming from the "parent" state right now) There's enough bad news going around. We don't need any more!
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Post by TheBear on Jan 16, 2013 15:46:43 GMT -5
Thank you, Tommy, Carroll - everybody! Yeah, I'm a bit stubborn so I just keep on keepin' on. I do have two wheelchairs and an electric scooter but I'm determined to get around by using my canes as much as possible. The heart issue is rather new to me, however. As a psych nurse, I had only basic schooling in cardiac medicine... and that was back when Florence Nightingale and I were in school together  So, most of this is "foreign" to me. I'm just glad they have been able to find meds that really do help. I don't mind dying but I'm not at all happy being sick. Okay... I'm sitting in the airport in San Fran. My flight from Fort Dick International (LOL) was two hours late leaving. Have missed my connections in SF and LA. So now have a 5-hour layover and am rerouted on to Tuscon. ... and the bar won't sell me a keg of wine! Harrumph! Polar Furball __________________. |
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Post by Youn0469 on Jan 17, 2013 14:01:08 GMT -5
Bear, I am so glad you are doing better!!! It makes me happy…
As for the Youth/young adult GLBT culture… well being all of 24 years old I see things differently. True, there are the stereotypical circuit boys who hop around from bar to bar and boy to boy. Alas, there are unique individuals within the younger gay community such as myself and others who do not believe in any of the above.
I actually believe in the inherent worth of good friends and people in general. Everyone deserves dignity and respect regardless of any outlying factors like age, race, gender, etc… I have a distinct love for humanity.
A really good friend of mine put it bluntly when describing himself to me. He doesn't care about the outward appearances of people to love them. He sees beyond that and sees people for who they are on the inside which is why I love him so much for it.
I've also seen a lot of young activists crop up in Minnesota, especially with the anti-gay-marriage amendment last year that fortunately failed! So many LGBT and allied teens spoke up in their schools, communities, churches and at home in opposition to an amendment that would have defined marriage in MN as solely between one man and one woman. Without their help we might not have been successful. We won only by a narrow margin.
I don't wholly disagree with your statement, there are those who fit the profile, but there are those who don't fit the profile like the fabulous creatures they are! LOL
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Post by burner on Jan 19, 2013 2:01:01 GMT -5
Damn! I haven't been checking in daily as I used to and just saw the recent postings. After reading your story, Bear, my recently acquired stent seems like a splinter compared to what you've gone through. I'm just glad to hear about it AFTER the fact, when it's been tended to and you're on the mend. Stay well, dear friend, and keep that cookie over going!
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Post by blu06 on Jan 19, 2013 20:06:14 GMT -5
Of Course you're on the mend. All you needed was a bit of tinkering, shake this, tap that, rub everything and whoa! you're good as gold! A man of such a spirit will need a more adversarial opponent than a mere bad ticker to bring you down old buddy. Age is an accomplishment. For you will never the man you will become tomorrow without living the life of the man you were yesterday. I'll make sure I'll bring your pair of gold lame short shorts when we meet ! Right down Main Street we will strut and and snap!
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